Really? Women bash men?
National Times, 08 March 2011
Talk about spoiling the party! Just as the 100th International
Women’s Day dawns over a perfumed world Aussie professor Kim Halford has
released a study on female violence.
Women wallop men just as much as men wallop women, says the prof who
claims domestic violence can often be blamed on the missus getting in a
pre-emptive whack first. That’s what he calls the “usual pattern”. She
hits him, he hits her, now you’ve got a punch-up.
Halford – he’s a Queensland clinical psychologist – doesn’t
paint a very rosy picture of marriage. Almost a quarter of the 379
couples (22 per cent) told him there had been “at least one act of
low-level violence in the year leading up to and including the wedding.”
(Makes you wonder why gays want to join in the nuptial free-for-all and
indeed angry word-regurgitator Helen Razer sneers at the concept in a
current rant).That “low-level
violence”, by the way, means slapping or shoving, rather than punching.
Interesting finding, this. In the comments to my
recent blog “Do men get a rough
deal?” there were all sorts of wild claims (well, they sounded wild)
about men being bashed by women. I mean, men are usually bigger and
stronger than women, aren’t they?
Well yes. Doc Halford says man-whacking is not a clever move by the
ladies because “it is usually the women who end up getting injured and
feeling psychologically intimidated”. But not always. Males everywhere
recoiled at the report last month about Xian Peng, the 48-year-old bloke
in Sydney whose former girlfriend drugged him, tied him up then stabbed
him and cut off his penis. Peng bled to death and now Jian Chen has been
charged by police. Ouch.
Let’s have a look at some stats. Los Angeles police data records a
doubling of female violence against men from 1987 to 1995: from 340
women arrested for violence against men (7 per cent of 1987 total) to
1262 (14.3 per cent of 1995 total). Quote:
“While the number of men arrested for domestic violence increased by 1.6
between 1987 and 1995, the number of women arrested for the same reason
increased nearly fourfold (by 3.7) in the same time period.”
Of course that is in the US of A where the wives have long ruled the
Oregon-based site notes:
“Very little is known about the actual number of
men who are in a domestic relationship in which they are abused or
treated violently by women. In 100 domestic violence situations
approximately 40 cases involve violence by women against men. An
estimated 400,000 women per year are abused or treated violently in the
United States by their spouse or intimate partner. This means that
roughly 300,000 to 400,000 men are treated violently by their wife or
In good old laid-back Oz
another study in 1996-97 showed
5.7 per cent of men quizzed had been scratched or kicked or slapped or
hit by their ever-loving brides – whereas 3.1 per cent of women said the
same. “This remains an unacceptably high rate of domestic violence,”
said the researchers. They also reported: “An
important but unanticipated finding was that violence runs in couples.
54% of respondents who reported that they had been assaulted, also
admitted that they had assaulted their partners.”
Some years back a bloke named Ray O'Sullivan used to wrestle on air
with Melbourne radio 3AW's Paul Barber about domestic violence stats,
trying to convince a disbelieving Barber that women were just as
culpable. O'Sullivan, now in Berlin, fired in this email after my
"Here are a few stats that never seem to get aired: 75% of suicides,
men, and no wonder, when you look at the following stats. 80% of
homeless, men. 90% of work place deaths, men. 99.9999% or war dead
and injured, men. 90% of prisoners, men. More health related deaths at
an earlier age, men. Lowest gender specific government health
spending, men. Most unemployed, men. lowest tertiary intakes, men.
Most discriminated in family courts, men.
"Feminism was constructed, paid for and supported by multi-national
corporations who believe in the idea that work gives women freedom and
this is what they have been selling women for years, and you don't have
to be Einstein to work out the advantages to big business, because more
money earned, means more money spent, and governments getting more
taxes. Yes gentlemen, we've fallen for the propaganda/spin again.
But who cares, we are only male chauvinist pigs."
OK, so maybe the clergyman needs to add an extra line in that part of
the wedding ceremony: "In sickness and in health... and in recovery from
injury incurred by your spouse... do you take this assailant to be your
lawfully wedded wife?"